A Starter Guide To Self Improvement – Authne

Self Improvement

For your self-improvement, Negative influences are all around and can have a surprising effect. Don’t let disorderly people and circumstances pull you down. Staying calm, and composed and maintaining strong self-improvement in today’s tough environment can be difficult but is not impossible if you follow a few simple guidelines. Here are 6 tips you can use as a starter to focus on self-improvement.

Everything and everyone else around you can affect your self-improvement. Other people can intentionally or inadvertently damage your self-image. Unchecked people and circumstances can ultimately destroy your self-improvement and pull you down in ways you won’t even notice. Don’t let these consequences get the best of you. But what should you avoid?

A Negative Work Environment

Beware of a “dog eat dog” circumstances where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive and working extra is desired and not rewarded. In these circumstances, no one will respect your contributions even if you miss lunch, dinner, and stay at work late into the night. Unless you are very advantageous most of the time you will work too hard with no help from others around you. This type of atmosphere will ruin your self-improvement. This is not just healthy competition, at its worst, it is brutal and very destructive. 

Other People’s Behaviour

Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, suffers – whatever you want to name them, all have one thing in familiar- an overriding desire to flourish at the expense of others. Bypass them and do not be tempted to join them. They may get some short term advantage with their behaviour but deep down most are very unsure, unhappy and ashamed of their behaviour. For most, their self-improvement disappeared a long time ago. Seeing someone like this prosper is disagreeable but do not join them – you are better than that!

A Changing Environment

In today’s fast-moving culture it is difficult if not impossible to avoid change. Transformations challenge our paradigms and test our flexibility, adaptability and alter the way we think. Changes can make your life tough and may cause stress but, if it’s inevitable, you must accept it, don’t fight it and in time find methods to improve your life. Try to handle change and try to avoid multiple changes at the same time. If a particular change can’t be bypassed welcome it.  The change will be with us forever, we must know to live with it.

Avoid Past Experience for Self Improvement

We all carry “baggage” – past experiences which have materialised us into who we are today, but some individuals live in their past experiences – usually, something that hurt and still hurts. It’s okay to cry out when you experience pain but don’t let pain conquer your life as it will transform itself into fears and phobias. If something painful occurs or has happened to you, find a way to minimise the consequences. Discuss it with a friend, a family member or a professional if required and move on. Don’t let it continue to dominate your life and dictate your future activities. Because something bad has occurred doesn’t mean it will happen again. Understand what you can from any bad experience and move on. 

Negative World View

The television news is full of doom and gloom and it is true that around the world there are many people sorrowing about war, famine or other natural or man-made catastrophes. Whilst I do not recommend you should not care and do nothing, remember that there are many beautiful positive things occurring too. Don’t wrap yourself up in all the negative factors of the world. Learn to look for beauty too for, in building self-improvement, we must know how to be positive in a negative world. 

Determination Theory for Self Improvement

Are we a product of our biological inherited characteristics (nature) or a consequence of the influences we absorb throughout our lives (nurture)? I believe how we are is due to a combination of both nurture and nature and as an outcome, our behavioural attributes are not fixed. Whilst it is true that some things are dictated by genetics (for example race, colour and many inherited circumstances) your environment and the people in your life have a major impact on your behaviour. You are your own person, you have your own identity and make your own options. The characteristics your mother or father displays are not your future. Realize from other people’s experiences, so you don’t suffer the same mistakes.

Is somebody born a leader or a positive thinker? I don’t believe so. Being positive, and staying positive is a preference. Building self-esteem or self-improvement and drawing on positive experiences for self-improvement is an option, not a rule or a talent. No one will come to you and give you permission to build your self-improvement and improve yourself. It is in your control. 

It can be hard to keep positive, particularly when others and possibilities seem to be conspiring to pull you down. You need to protect yourself and give yourself the possibility to stay positive. Improving your self-improvement gives you that protection.

One way to stay positive is to undervalue your exposure to harmful influences while using affirmations to boost the positive influences in your life. Regularly reminding yourself of the good things in your life will keep the impact of negative influences to a minimum.

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